and marriage is different today to what it was twenty years ago. In
today's society, more than 50% of all marriages fail for one reason or
another. Just thinking about that makes "commitment" seem scary. It
seems that when relationships are faced with challenges, people quit
trying. Dating is more like a marathon, trying to date as many people
as possible, instead of taking time to get to know someone at a deeper
level. For married couples, divorce is not biased. Whether married for
thirty years or eight months, the outcome can be the same.
fact is that relationships, whether dating or married, are hard. Things
do not always go perfectly, fighting does occur, and it takes a 100%
commitment from both parties to make it a success. Often when people
break off a relationship, they feel as though something is missing. The
"spark" has gone, leaving one or both people feeling inadequate and
even though the odds are not very good, healthy, and long-lasting
relationships are definitely possible and proven by many people. Look
at Paul Newman and Joanne Woodard, Danny Devito and Rhea Perlman, or
Nancy and Ronald Regan. What secrets do they possess? The answer is
that they all work hard at their relationship. They made a decision of
choosing to love their mate rather than relying on the "warm and fuzzy"
feelings, which everyone knows will fade. By making love a choice you
are making a decision that even in the bad times, you stick it out.
of it like choosing a car. You pick out the make, model, year, color,
and features that you believe are best for you. After driving your car
for a couple of months, you realize that perhaps you should have
purchased a larger car, or that maybe the leather seats would have been
better, or on hot sunny days, the sunroof would have been nice.
However, it is now too late so you choose to keep your car and make it
work. It is the same for marriage. Not everything will be perfect and
there will be major obstacles to overcome but you have made your
decision and now you choose to make it work.
There are hundreds of things you can do to better your relationship. To help get you headed in the right direction, 97 Steps to a Happy Relationship gives you 97 ways to build, strengthen, and enhance your relationship.
Remember, little steps taken every day will add up to big successes.