He's Just Not That into You by Greg Behrendt - On Oprah
He's Just Not That Into You
Greg Behrendt & Liz Tuccillo
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As seen on Oprah..... "Confused about how a guy feels about you? Former Sex and the City writer and co- author of He's Just Not That Into You Greg Behrendt reveals what's really going on!"
Whether you're dating, divorced, single—or have friends who are—these six little words could save years of heartache and doubt!
"Chapter One: he's just not that into you if he's not asking you out
Because if he likes you, trust me, he will ask you out.
Many women have said to me, "Greg, men run the world." Wow. That makes us sound pretty capable. So tell me, why would you think we could be incapable of something as simple as picking up the phone and asking you out? You seem to think at times that we're "too shy" or we "just got out of something." Let me remind you: Men find it very satisfying to get what they want. (Particularly after a difficult day of running the world.) If we want you, we will find you."
THIS BOOK WAS PUBLISHED IN AUGUST 2004 BY SIMON AND SCHUSTER AND WRITEN BY GREG BEHRENDT AND LIZ TUCCILLO.
THIS BOOK WON THE 2005 QUILL BOOK AWARD IN THE HEALTH & SELF IMPROVEMENT CATEGORY.
I HAVE READ IT- THIS BOOK IS HILARIOUS!! A MUST FOR ANY WOMAN DEALING WITH MEN!!!!-MEN ALSO THINK IT IS FUNNY TOO, ALTHOUGH I HAVE FOUND MEN MOST TIMES AGREE 100% WITH WHAT THE WRITERS ARE SAYING!!
Oh sure, they say they're busy. They say that they didn't have even a moment in their insanely busy day to pick up the phone. It was just that crazy. All lies. With the advent of cell phones and speed dialing, it is almost impossible not to call you. Sometimes I call people from my pants pocket when I don't even mean to. If I were into you, you would be the bright spot in my horribly busy day. Which would be a day that I would never be too busy to call you.
There is something great about knowing that my only job is to be as happy as I can be about my life, and feel as good as I can about myself, and to lead as full and eventful a life as I can, so that it doesn't ever feel like I'm just waiting around for some guy to ask me out. And most importantly, it's good for us all to remember that we don't need to scheme and plot, or beg anyone to ask us out. We're fantastic.
For ages, women have come together over coffee, cocktails or late-night phone chats to analyze the puzzling behavior of men.
He's afraid to get hurt again.
Maybe he doesn't want to ruin the friendship.
Maybe he's intimidated by me.
He just got out of a relationship.
Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo are here to say that—despite good intentions—you're wasting your time. Men are not complicated, although they'd like you to think they are. And there are no mixed messages.
The truth may be He's just not that into you.
Unfortunately, guys are too terrified to ever directly tell a woman, "You're not the one." But their actions absolutely show how they feel.
He's Just Not That Into You—based on a popular episode of Sex and the City—educates otherwise smart women on how to tell when a guy just doesn't like them enough, so they can stop wasting time making excuses for a dead-end relationship.
Reexamining familiar scenarios and classic mindsets that keep us in unsatisfying relationships, Behrendt and Tuccillo's wise and wry understanding of the sexes spares women hours of waiting by the phone, obsessing over the details with sympathetic girlfriends, and hoping his mixed messages really mean "I'm in love with you and want to be with you."
He's Just Not That Into You is provocative, hilarious and, above all, intoxicatingly liberating. It deserves a place on every woman's night table. It knows you're a beautiful, smart, funny woman who deserves better. The next time you feel the need to start "figuring him out," consider the glorious thought that maybe he's just not that into you. And then set yourself loose to go find the one who is.
A consultant and story editor from the hit TV show SEX AND THE CITY tell you what's really going on in a man's mind when he's apparently sending out mixed messages about his feelings for you: HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU. According to this humorous but intensely practical self-help guide, men avoid telling women that they're not interested in them because men hate messy, emotional confrontations. However, their actions are fairly screaming their interest, or lack thereof, and women need to pick up on that, dump the losers, and move on to the real, fulfilling relationships that they so richly deserve. This book torpedoes every lame excuse a woman makes for a boyfriend's bad or indifferent behavior. A man who's interested in a woman will move heaven and earth to be with her. If he won't call you, he won't ask you out, he won't propose, or he disappears entirely, wake up and smell the coffee: HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU.